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A few weeks back, based on my experience, I wrote an article on ‘7 tips to pass an exam’ (you may visit:http://wisdomfrombooks.com/how-to-pass-exams-7-useful-tips/) which was greatly appreciated by the readers.

I was thinking to write something on techniques for better and effective learning and this post comprise of some ideas towards better learning. A few days back, I was watching Paul Mckenna’s lecture on accelerated learning.

He advised about a few techniques which can be used by us to learn effectively in less time. Here are few tips:

1. Concentration span: A person’s concentration span is generally 18 minutes. While reading course material, one should read for 18 minutes and then take a 4 minute smaller break and again study for 18 minutes.

2. Visualization: One should try to ‘visualize’ learning in the home environment.

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If you want to live an exceptional life, listen to Jim Rohn!

Ideas provided by Jim Rohn are not only exceptional but I can surely state that once we decide to apply what he has said, we can live an exceptional life. Test for yourself. In this post, I would like to share seven key ideas from his audio programs. If you want to remain motivated and inspired in day to day life, my recommendation: Jim Rohn’s audio program. Here are the ten ideas. Take time to think on these and share your thoughts:

1. A prayer for every day:

Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems. Wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom.

2. On action:

If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what youve always gotten.

3. On success:

Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.

4. On making fortune:

Formal education will make you a living; self education will make you a fortune.

5 – What can we change?

You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.

6. Foundation of success:

Discipline is the foundation upon which all success is built. Lack of  discipline inevitably leads to failure.

7. Become a person who attracts success:

Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become.

 If you want to read my previous post on Jim Rohn’s, click: http://wp.me/pHUHq-73

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As a child we all learn to talk but we only learn to listen when our parents tell us that they won’t buy us a particular toy and then…….. what happens?

Most of the children start crying!

Do we learn how to listen effectively?

During my professional career, one of the things I have learnt is to listen. I would like to add that listening is not hearing or if you remain silent and wait for your turn to speak, it is also not effective listening. One of the ways in which effective listening may be explained is the way in which we listen to the other person fully, analyze what is being said, ask gentle question to get full picture and then frame our response or utterance.

5 tips which we may consider to develop effective listening skills include:

1. Get comfortable with silence

Why silence?

Silence mean not to think about shooting the answer when the other person stops speaking but silence is a state which enables a person to think, analyze and re-think before speaking.

Silence has its own language!.

Once a person is silent and let his / her thoughts focus on an issue and start analyzing with open mind, better solutions come into consideration – try practicing silence and enjoy the comfort! Read the rest of this entry »

After learning that latest model of i-phone is short in the stores and there are some issues related to i-phone’s latest model, I wondered about the founder of Apple – Mr. Steve Jobs. Who is Mr. Jobs – a self-made billionaire? His story is really inspiring, motivating and energizing. He was fired from his own company!! I am posting an extract about Mr Jobs from Adam Khoo’s book: “Secrets of Self-Made Millionaire”. Here is the story of Mr. Steve Jobs:

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We might have read many ideas on ‘How to achieve success’ and related stuff. However, there are a few books which also deal with ‘spiritual’ laws of attaining success. We will take up the first spiritual law of success from Deepak Chopra’s international best seller: ‘The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success’. Author says that the book can also be called : “The Seven Spiritual laws of Life” because those seven laws can be observed in the ‘nature’ around us and those laws are used by the nature to create every thing that is in the material existence. The first spiritual law of success is the law of:

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Billions of dollar in debt, USD 975 million in personal guarantee, people telling you that you are a failure, Wall Street Journal & New York Times running stories against one person, both on the same day  – What happens next?

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“SELF DISCIPLINE in ten days – how to go from thinking to doing” by Theodore Bryant is an interesting, small-sized practical guide-book for all of us who wish to try to get ourselves little ‘disciplined’. In 160 pages, the book is divided into four parts: preliminary information, a ten-day self-development program, subconscious belief and five power tools and lastly; putting it altogether.

The Author has mentioned that every one of us has got a side which believes that if we get ourselves ‘disciplined’, we may lose our freedom and we will have to share more responsibilities. One part within all of us is not willing at all to be self-disciplined. However, a person, when develops his or her own discipline guidelines, becomes ones own boss.

Five factors in everyone which generally stop us to achieve the goal of becoming self disciplined include: cynicism, negativism, defeatism, escapism and delayism (Wow! So many ‘isms’!!!!).

To put it short, we don’t want to adopt discipline because there are negative thoughts stopping us to do so. That negative part in each one of us is termed as ‘Hyde’ by the author (the negative character in the novel on Dr. Jekyll and Hyde)

The Cure to the five negative factors:

Accomplishment-oriented, present-tense, concrete self-talk is the first line of defense against negative thoughts which keep a person tied to old ways of thinking. Believe that our attitude has everything to do with our success, regardless of the task at hand. Believe that there is just as much good stuff in the world as there is bad stuff. WE can choose our own attitude. Will our attitude work for us or against us? The choice is ours. Believe it. Believe that life, for the most part, is based on the cause-and effect principle. In our life, our actions are the cause; the results of our actions are the effects.

We need to replace negative self talk with positive self talk as the first step.

SELF TALK

Self-talk is a conversation we have with ourself. Often, this occurs subconsciously. Self-talk always goes on, even when we don’t consciously hear it. WE constantly receive messages from ourselves, they never stop. Every second of our day you make choices based on these messages. Whether we are deciding what to eat, what to wear, or what to do, a process of choice is taking place. The choices that determine our actions are based on self-talk.  This inner conversation is comparable to the background music that plays while a person shops in a supermarket. The music plays but people don’t really hear it unless people consciously and purposely focus their attention on it. But even though people aren’t consciously aware of it, this background music has an effect on people’s behavior. 

Research has shown time and time again that background music influences our buying patterns. The stores wouldn’t do it if it didn’t increase sales.

And here is an interesting point from the book:

Did you hear about the fellow who returned a shirt to the clothing store and told the salesman, “After I got home, I realized that I don’t like this shirt. I just liked the song that was playing in the store when I bought it.!!!

The author states: “Action-oriented self-talk overrules self-defeating self-talk by being Positive, Specific, and Present Tense. Why? our subconscious mind believes whatever we tell it. It looks to you for reality. If you tell it that, “I am now working on my report,” then your subconscious mind will turn all its attention to your report, no matter what you actually are doing when you say it”.

Your thoughts on the above?

More from the book in coming days.

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When you visit any lunchroom in any big company, what do you hear?

 Gossip. Complains. Bitter talk. Negativity.

 Have you been to any family gathering around dinner time? What are people generally talking about?

 Gossip. Complains. Bitter talk. Negativity.

 Here is list of expression which we generally hear:

 “I don’t want this backache.”

“I don’t want this headache.”

“I don’t want these bills.”

“I don’t want to struggle in my job.”

 As per Joe Vitale, What we don’t realize is we are activating the Attractor Factor in a negative way. When we say, “I don’t want these bills,” our focus is on—you guessed it—

bills!

The spirit of life will deliver whatever you focus on. At times we have ‘FEAR’. Fear is in fact, ‘wrongly-directed’ faith! We are focusing and believing a negative thought – that’s what the fear is!

 

How did Socrates, the famous philosopher avoided negativity?

Here is one of the stories from Socrates:

One day, a man rushed up to Socrates, saying, “I have some news to tell you!” Socrates put up his hand to stop the excited man.

“First let me ask you three questions,” Socrates said. “Ah, er, okay,” said the man.

“Is the news you are about to tell me something you personally know to be true?”

“Well, no,” replied the man. “I heard it from a good source, though.”

“Then let’s go to the second question,” Socrates said.

“Is the news you want to tell me about someone you know personally?”

“Well, no,” the man said. “But I think you know the person.”

“I see,” said Socrates. “Then let me ask you my final question. Is this news positive or negative?”

“Well, it’s negative.”

“Let me see,” said the wise Socrates. “You want to tell me some news that you don’t know personally to be true, about someone you don’t know at all, and that is negative.”

“Well, it sounds bad when you put it like that.”

“I think I’ll pass,” Socrates said.

 Five steps to attract whatever you want:

“The Attractor Factor” by Dr. Joe Vitale is a book which explains five steps to create wealth (or anything else) from inside out. Here are five steps explained in detail in the book by the author:

1. Know what you don’t want. 2. Select what you do want. 3. Clear all negative or limiting beliefs.

4. Feel what it would be like to have, do, or be what you want.

5. Let go as you act on your intuitive impulses, and allow the results to manifest.

You may visit his website www.mrfire.com to know more about him. More from the books in coming days. Your thoughts?

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Conflict is part of our lives and occur frequently. Question is: How to resolve conflicts?

When you think of conflict, what comes to mind?

Fighting? Aggression? Hatred? Fear? Struggles? Battles? Or can you think of conflict positively, as challenge, opportunity, energy, passion, creativity, engagement?

Leaders, teachers, parents, coaches—everybody engaged in dealing with other people must learn to like handling conflict. For many people, it is a shock to think that conflicts are positive and one should ‘like’ to deal with conflicts!

Conflict can be defined as a difference between two or more persons or groups characterized by tension, disagreement, and polarization when bonding is broken or completely lacking. At the root of all conflict is broken bonding and failure to handle loss.

Put the fish on the table:

Each time we eat a fish dinner, someone has had to clean and prepare that fish. If you leave a fish under the table, it starts to rot and smell.

Unfortunately, many people leave a lot of fish—conflicts and issues—under their table. They do not face the discord, hoping it will vanish. However, leaving the fish under the table not only does not remove the conflict but also makes the odor worse and worse. What every person needs to do is reach under the table, grab the fish, put it on the table, and go through the mess of cleaning the fish (the conflict) to have a great fish dinner (the solution) at the end of the day. Now, it is true that sometimes we may reach under the table and find a shark or a whale!!!

So we must be aware of the size of the conflict in order to handle it properly. Putting the fish on the table does not mean to be aggressive and hostile.

Conflict resolution:

The resolution of conflict comes through creating and maintaining a bond with the other person irrespective of differences and of any dislike of the person. We do not have to like someone to form a bond with him or her. We only need a common goal.

Another secret of successful conflict resolution is the ability to continually maintain the bond and to re-bond when a bond is broken too quickly for whatever reason. Taking a positive approach to conflict involves understanding that bonding is fundamental to any resolution. Here is the suggestion from the book by the author on conflict resolution:

1. Never create an enemy

2. The person is never a problem. Focus on issue; not on the person to ensure a resolution.

3. Maintain a sincere desire to help the other person get what he or she wants or needs.

4. Never be hijacked by attacks and intense emotions. Never take aggressive words or actions personally. Keep your thoughts clear and never lose sight of the goal.

Here is a nice picture I found on team work…..

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What do you think about conflict resolution? You may share your ideas by providing your comments.

 

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“The highest performers see possibilities, not limitations”

 

Those who emerge from tough times are winners who make no excuses. They refuse to be seen as victims.

Consider the following everyday situations in which people allow themselves to be taken hostage.
• While you are in your car on your way to work, another driver cuts you off. Immediately you feel angry and hostile toward the “jerk” in the other vehicle. This feeling can linger, keeping you in a negative frame of mind for a good part of the day.
• Your boss criticizes you, and in response, you defend yourself or even attack her, causing the situation to escalate. The conflict stays in your mind, resulting in a feeling of distrust
between the two of you.
• You are going on a business trip and, because you are leaving, your child cries. You then rush out the door feeling guilty and telling yourself that you are a terrible parent. For the remainder of the trip, you feel down and even depressed.
• You say hello to a colleague as you walk by, but he does not respond. You begin complaining to others about your colleague, your work, and the company. Soon you start thinking,
“Nobody cares about people around here.”

People enraged by another person, a traffic jam, missing luggage, a lost job, a delayed flight, or even the weather—any set of external circumstances beyond their control—are allowing themselves to be taken hostage. Without realizing it, how many of us let an external event control our lives? Have you ever been upset because your holiday was ruined by bad weather? Have you ever been put into a bad mood by someone else’s negative attitude? Have you ever said to someone, “You make me so upset!”

If so, you have allowed yourself to be taken hostage.

The book: “Hostage at the table” identifies ‘hostage’ behaviour and provides some practical solutions.

Many people cover themselves with facts, figures, and details at the expense of the emotions, feelings, and motivations of their coworkers. Even the terms hard facts and the soft stuff used in business imply that data are somehow real and strong while emotions are weak and less important. I have seen examples of overdomineering leaders inflicting untold pain and misery on employees through their need to control both people and situations.

HOW NOT BE BECOME HOSTAGE?

To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a wild Flower
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour (Excerpt from Auguries of Innocence,
William Blake)

 A FEW POINTS TO REMEMBER:

1. A hostage mind-set involves feeling trapped, helpless, powerless, disconnected, and unable to influence and persuade.
2. The brain is hardwired to survive by looking for danger and pain. We can override this instinctual aspect of the brain to look for the positive and for ways to act with personal power.
3. Learned helplessness and lack of control of our mind-set causes people to be powerless. Recovering our power to choose a reaction to the events in our lives is possible for anyone who has become a hostage.
4. Know what you want and maintain a mind-set of “everything is possible.” If you do not get what you want, find the positive in not getting what you want. Either way you win and will never feel like a hostage.

We will see more ideas from this interesting book by George Kohlrieser in coming days. You can listen to one of the interviews of the author at Malaysia from here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TPpdjxyB51E

Would you like to share your thoughts on the above?

Would you like to share your experience on becoming hostage ‘mentally’ and your tip to avoid such ‘attack’ of circumstances?

 

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This web site comprise of ideas and thoughts from various international management, business, self help best selling books. It is meant for all those who are interested in self-help, self growth and learning. If you are one of those who intend to read good management, business or self help books but have little time, this website is for you.

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