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One of the solutions towards calm mind and less stressed state of life is meditation. There are many ways to practice meditation and people around the world who practice meditation provide their own ways and means. Almost all forms of meditation need to have two ‘Cs’ for completeness. These two ‘Cs’ include:

  1. Concentration – focus; and
  2. Clarity

Some techniques may have one aspect or both, depending upon the objective for which that technique is being used. ‘Mindfulness’ meditations are good examples which consist of both of these Cs i.e. Concentration and clarity.

Andy Pudddicombe, in his book: Headspace guide to meditation and mindfulness claim that ’10 minutes’ can make the difference in ones life and those 10 minutes is the time one use for mindful meditation. This technique can be applied anywhere even when you are at work or travel or else where – all you need is dedicated 10 minutes in which you are not disturbed by outside forces.

The technique which I am sharing here is from the book of Andy Puddicombe, the book recommended by Bill Gates. Technique is called ‘Take 10’ and is being summarized below:

1. Find a place to sit down in a relaxed manner with straight back.

2. Set time for 10 minutes in which no one should disturb you: Idea: Turn off the cell phone!

3. Close your eyes and take five (5) deep gentle breaths: in through the nose and out through the mouth.

4. Focus on the physical sensation of the body – arms and legs

5. Scan down through the body and notice which parts feel comfortable and relaxed, and which parts feel uncomfortable and tense.

6. Notice how you’re feeling—i.e. what sort of mood you’re in right now.

7. Notice where you feel the rising and falling sensation of the breath most strongly.

8. Notice how each breath feels, the rhythm of it—whether it’s long or short, deep or shallow, rough or smooth.

9. Gently count the breaths as you focus on the rising and falling sensation—1 with the rise and 2 with the fall, upward to a count of 10.

10. Repeat this cycle between 5 and 10 times, or for as long as you have time available.

Allow your mind to be as busy or as still as it wants to be for about twenty seconds and then bring the mind back to the sensation of the body. Open your eyes and stand up when you feel ready.


In the book, Andy says: “In the moment you realize that you’ve been distracted, that the mind has wandered off, you’re no longer distracted. So all you need to do is gently bring the attention back to the physical sensation of the breath and continue to count. If you can remember the number you were on then just pick it up from there and, if not, simply start again at 1. There are no prizes for making it to 10 (I’m sorry to say) and so it doesn’t matter whether you start again at 1 or not. In fact, it can be quite funny in how difficult it is to make it to 10 each time, and it’s okay to laugh if you feel like laughing. For some reason meditation can look very serious and it can be tempting to start treating it like “serious work.” But the more you can bring a sense of humor to it, a sense of play, the easier and more enjoyable you’ll find it”.


Do you become angry at times?

We all become angry when things don’t go our way. Why do we become angry?

Is it good to be angry?

At times, may be the answer is ‘yes, it is good to be angry’.

One of my friend provided me with a very good technique to reduce anger. He told me Read the rest of this entry »

Ideas from the book: How to create your own future by Brian Tracy: (www.briantracy.com)

 The more you think about your problems, the more negative you will become.

 How can a person avoid negative thoughts? What is the solution?

How can you not think about problems?

 Solution is:

 Think about solutions!!! (Interesting isn’t it?)

Ihzrat Khan, the Sufi Master, once wrote, “Life is a continuous succession of problems.”

Everyone’s life is probably filled with problems of all kinds, large and small. If a person does not watch out, those problems  fill thoughts and preoccupy a person’s mind.

Whenever you have a problem of any kind, discipline yourself to think about the solution instead.

Stop reviewing the problem in your mind, thinking about who was to blame, and wondering what you could have or should have done differently. Instead, think about the solution and what you are going to do next.

The instant that you start thinking about what you can do, your mind calms and clears. You become positive and constructive. You are back in control.

How not to be angry?

 • Whenever something happens that makes you angry, neutralize the negative thought by thinking about your goals, especially your biggest and most exciting goal.

• Repeat your goal in the form of a personal, present tense affirmation.

• Talk to yourself about what you want, and use that to keep your mind off of the things that you don’t want.

• The key: Try to neutralize you anger by focusing on long term solution.

 • Don’t think about past, think about future. Think about where you are going rather than where you have been.

• Think about your ideal life and the wonderful possibilities that lie ahead of you Your future dreams and visions are naturally positive and uplifting. While you are thinking about them, you can’t simultaneously think about something that holds you back or drags you down.

You can use the Law of Substitution by getting so busy working on goals and tasks that are important to you that you don’t have any time to think about anything else.

Almost all negativity requires your remembering and rehashing a past event or circumstance. Positive thinking comes from your thinking about your goals and the specific things that you could be doing right now to achieve them faster. The only real antidote to worry is sustained, continuous action. When you “lose yourself in action,” your worries disappear.

Your thoughts?


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