3 ways to handle frustration!
Posted December 1, 2010on:
At times we are frustrated when things don’t go our way. At times when people around us don’t behave in the way we wanted them to behave.At times when desired results are not achieved, we are frustrated!
Now the question: How can we handle our frustration, particularly when people don’t perform in the way we have expected them to perform.
Below, I am sharing experience from practical life. You are more than welcome to share your thoughts on this blog:
1. When all else fails……
It is said that: When all fails, lower your expectations!
Because we expect certain person to behave in certain way or we expect a situation to turn in certain way. When that thing does not happen in that particular way, we are not happy.
So, why not lower our expectations? Think over this. Don’t expect perfection from any one. If we expect that people are not rational, kind or considerate and when they perform good deeds or do acts of kindness, we will be happy as we have not expected them to perform well….. Interesting isn’t it?
2. Try to understand things from other people’s perspective
This is easier said than done.
Question: How can we understand other people?
Answer: When we put them in their shoes.
What if we go to an eye doctor and we know that we are going to get eye glasses and the doctor gives us his own glasses to wear. The doctor says: I don’t know which type of glasses you need but I am wearing these from last twenty years and they must be helpful to you. So, use them.
I am sure doctor’s glasses won’t work for you or me or any one of us. Doctor has to understand the issue first from our perspective before suggesting any remedy. Therefore, if we understand other people, we might not be extra frustrated.
3. Start some physical work / exercise / game
It happened when one of our senior colleague in accountancy exam was unable to pass for sixth time. You can’t image his frustration!
So, another senior who was taking attempt for tenth time told him: Take a squash ball and write ‘examination board’ on it and start playing squash. Hit the ball several time and let your anger out.
Third method: start playing some game or do exercise or jog. This helps!