How to motivate ourselves – 2 ideas
Posted October 23, 2010on:
How can we motivate ourselves?
It happens that we want to do some thing like to read a good book or do some task but some how or the other, we are unable to motivate ourselves – what to do? I have been asked by many readers of this blog to write on self motivation and here are two ideas which will help us to understand how can we motivate ourselves?
We need to understand two basic emotions which we need to tackle if we really want to motivate ourselves.
Those two emotions are:
1. FEAR &
People generally don’t take action at times because of the fear of unknown. Lets take a look into this:
Majority of the people doing Masters in Business Administration (MBA) prefer to work for others and not for themselves i.e. after completing MBA, first priority is to find a ‘secured’ job and not some good business to run. Why?
It is because of the ‘fear of unknown’.
In job, pay is guaranteed and we have a sense of security. Therefore, we do not intend to take up a business about which we are not sure.
Fear is the most powerful negative motivating emotion. It motivates us ‘not to take action‘ and as a result – we don’t!
However, some one said:
90% of the tragedies which I was afraid of had only one thing in common –
they never happened!
At times, we are afraid that this will go wrong – that will go wrong etc. However, once the step is taken, it is really in a positive direction. Once we review our lives, we can come across many such examples.
Now – many of my students ask me: How can we motivate our selves to read? People also say that we start exercise or dieting or any other action but after some time, it comes to halt.
We need to understand the ‘pain-pleasure’ principle explained by Anthony Robbins.
Don’t focus on pain which a person has to undergo, rather, focus on pleasure which we will get once the task on hand is complete. e.g. we have to wake up early in the morning to go for jogging. It feels painful to wake up early in the morning. However, once we are in the ground i.e. in fresh air, we feel pleasure – Feel that pleasure and not the pain.
Another main aspect or the most powerful positive motivating emotion is : Desire. I would like to add: Burning desire. It is to answer the question: why we really want to do this particular task. Let’s take an example: Why should I purchase a book and read it?
Do I have a ‘burning desire’ that I need to improve my self and that this book or this audio tape will help me? Desire make things happen. We sit in front of TV and watch our favorite drama or movie or any particular reality show? Why? Because we like that – because we have a desire to watch TV. If same ‘desire’ exists for reading book or doing exercise, that task will be happening.
To summarize, two key ideas for self motivation are :
1. Conquer the fear
2. Have a burning desire to take action i.e. focus on pleasure, not on pain!