People don’t understand me – what should I do?
Posted April 25, 2010on:
What do you see in the picture above? A man’s face? What if I tell you its not a man’s face? Look again.
Here is one of the best bits of advice ever given about the fine art of human relationships. “If there is any one secret of success,” said Henry Ford, “it lies in the
ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.” Now look into the picture again. Can you see a man and a woman?
Andrew Carnegie a person who is one of the true stories of progress from rags to riches, learnt in his early life that if you want to influence any other person, you need to understand what the other person needs and talk accordingly. Even if you like an apple or an orange, you cannot use the same fruit to catch a fish. When you go to fishing, you need to use worms as a fish likes worms not apple or orange…… the same rule applies when you have to handle people.
Dale Carnegie says in his book: “How to win friends and influence people” that once he gave a course in Effective Speaking for the young college graduates who were entering the employ of the Carrier Corporation, the large air-conditioner manufacturer. One of the participants wanted to persuade the others to play basketball in their free time, and this is about what he said: “I want you to come out and play basketball. I like to play basketball, but the last few times I’ve been to the gymnasium there haven’t been enough people to get up a game. Two or three of us got to throwing the ball around the other night – and I got a black eye. I wish all of you would come down tomorrow night. I want to play basketball.”
Do you consider that they boy was successful in persuading people come to gymnasium? What was the better way of saying the above?
To repeat Professor Overstreet’s wise advice: First, arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.
Here is another optical illusion: What do you see? an old man and an old woman or some thing else? Can we see the same thing but have different opinion?